The 3 Step Method To Regain Control

Emotions are an interesting concept, overlooked most times, and challenging to navigate when you don’t know where they are coming from. Some days you wake up happier and motivated to do the impossible and other days you find it challenging to get out of bed.

At the basis of every emotion, there is fear. Fear of loss of control in anger, fear of failure in doubt, fear of letting go in sadness, and the list goes on for root causes that are embedded with fear. In a previous blog post, I talked about how our childhood is the foundation of all the experiences and reactions we attract as adults. It is where we develop the patterns and triggers that push us to act in a certain way alongside our perception of reality. So considering we are already aware of this concept, it can act as great guidance to help us overcome our traumas and truly understand if the fear we are exhibiting is based on the present or the past.

                                                     

A great way to identify and break down certain situations is to follow the 3 Step Method. This method essentially allows you to view your situation from a different perspective and reassess the level of fear involved from your side. First, explain exactly how it is. Choose a way of expression that you prefer, it can be journaling, talking to a friend, or thinking out loud to yourself. Don’t bring up past experiences, reasons why this might have occurred, or anything that came prior to the  current situation 

Secondly, acknowledge all your feelings and claim them as your responsibility. This will give you the power of controlling your reactions and not letting external forces define how you feel or react. Claiming responsibility will also push you out of the victim mentality that’s often a trap many of us fall into when faced with life’s challenges.

Thirdly, after assessing the situation using the two steps above, you will get a clear different perspective of things and your inner guidance will emerge with a resolution. It’s important to highlight the fact that this method can definitely be used in past situations as well, there are moments where we seek closure in places we can’t find it and this can help us make amends as well as forgive ourselves for what happened.

While this method is a great one to adapt, an amazing impact can occur to your psych if you pair it up with NLP life coaching. Not only will this help you “un-learn” the negative patterns in your subconscious that attracts these types of scary situations but it will also guide you towards the path of healing by reconstructing your beliefs and perspectives to attain and maintain a positive mindset. The “reconstructing” part goes beyond a metaphorical meaning and the scientific term for it is actually Neural Plasticity. To simply explain it, our brains are physically able to change and wire different neurons together to produce different effects in our bodies which are displayed through emotions and reactions. These wires are built through repetitive patterns of behavior and you have the full power to deconstruct and reconstruct them as you wish to heal from past trauma and positively shift. Accordingly, this will lead you to attract positive outcomes and situations which you desire such as abundant job offers or romantic partners that tick all your boxes. 

The power is all within you and with some guidance, you can be the cause of the change in your life. 

Written By: Zaina Armoush

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